Two years and the honeymoon is over.

I put a lot of effort into my relationship with my husband. We have a good loving relationship. I make him feel special. I make him feel like I really care about him, which I do.

I stop what I’m doing when he calls me from upstairs and I go see what he wants. Why? Because I want him to know I love him.  I turn his computer on in the morning so that when he sits down it’s ready to go to work. A small thing but it’s appreciated. I look for small things I can do for him to make him feel loved and appreciated. He buys me flowers for no reason. He will make a special dish for dinner because he knows I like it. I appreciate it. When I go up to his office for something I stop and give him a kiss.

It takes work to have a good relationship. It doesn’t just happen. Left on it’s own the relationship will deteriorate into “why did I marry him?” or worse yes “I can’t stand him”. You see, statistics show that within 24 months the “I’m so in love” stage wears off. It happens to everyone. Know that it will happen and that it’s normal. You have to move on to the next phase of your relationship, which is really a more comfortable life. But, too many people think they have fallen out of love. It’s not true. That’s where you get “I love you but I’m not IN LOVE with you”.

It’s just that the head-over-heels love has disappeared. Now a real love can settle in. Mort Fertel, who is an expert on fixing broken marriages says “The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.”

If you are looking to always have the bells and whistles, stars and fireworks kind of love you are going to have to change partners every two years. Because that adrenalin rush kind of love WILL wear off within two years. Then you have to work at it, like I do, every day.

What can you do to improve your relationship today?

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