How often have we been in a bad relationship and wondered why we stay? When do we get to the point that we pack up and leave? It’s easy for us to tell a friend that they should get out of the relationship…that it’s going nowhere. But when it comes to taking that advice ourselves it’s a different story.
When is enough enough? When the pain of staying is greater than the pain of leaving. We may know intellectually that we are in a bad situation but until we get to that tipping point we won’t leave. I have been there myself, quite a few times. You don’t want to give up on the relationship, but you end up living in such turmoil that all you want is some peace of mind.
If you are struggling with “should I stay or should I go?” time will figure it out for you. Things will eventually get better or you will go past the point of pain in staying. It will be hard.
It was very hard when I left my first husband. I left numerous times and always went back. My two children were a factor, it was their father. Finally the pain of staying was worse than the pain of leaving and I left. I felt as if I had been let out of prison. It opens up new problems when you leave, but none as bad as the problems you left. It take courage but you have to be at the tipping point or you will just go back or be miserable that you left.
I encourage trying to work things out. But there comes a time when you know it just isn’t going to work. You have to find strength in yourself, an inner strenght. You can do it when the pain of staying is worse than the pain of leaving.
